Mickey wrote a darn good post about the motivations which lead to his lifestyle choice. He is more or less going with the Dakin plan of gentile poverty. Not that Dakin invented it but he definitely coined my favorite description for it and thus gets mentioned.
The post also briefly touched on the topic of women. First of all I want to say that I like boobs a whole lot. That has nothing to do with anything except women have them and my random thought generator is on high today. Anyway I am coming to see through a variety of different areas (peoples posts, comments, etc) that some essential topics need to be revisited from time to time. While readership on most blogs doesn't change that much month to month we do need to realize that individual readers come and go. It might not be a bad idea to post on some key topics from time to time, maybe quarterly.
I hear two typical gripes when it comes to survivalists griping about their wives. (To a much smaller degree women readers griping about their husbands in the same context.) The first is rather small and simple. It goes something like "I want to get (enter the name of a relatively low priced item) but my wife vetoed it". I have a couple thoughts about this. First of all there is a real simple answer to this, personal money. We do this and I can't see how any marriage survives without it. This is money that you both get to do whatever you want no questions asked. Spend it on good tasting lip gloss, hair products, shotgun shells or high capacity magazines or save it. The point of this is that you can do whatever you want with it. Survivalism aside I strongly suggest implementing this plan. Want a rifle or a dozen machetes but the wife is not on board? Save up your pocket money and get it.
For slightly larger (say a few hundred dollars but + - depending on your finances) items here is another idea, I bet she wants something also. Within the limits of your finances she is a lot more likely to be willing to allocate resources towards that sweet new whatever if she just got something nice. I have an awesome Wife who really asks for very little in terms of material goods but when she asks for something the answer is almost invariably yes. I think that a culture of both of you getting the reasonable things you want and can afford breeds a sort of good nature about it. This week we are spending cash on what you want but last week I got that spam can of ammo or whatever. I do know for certain that the fastest way to get a spouse to start being nit picky about that stuff is to do that to them.
Why don't guys do this I often ask myself? I think part of the answer is that one can look at survivalism as essential and thus not a hobby and thus something which falls outside the compromising realm (nothing in marriage falls outside the compromise realm). With small reoccurring expenses like extra canned goods or a few blue 5 gallon water jugs in my experience it is usually a non issue. Unless we are shorter then normal me picking up something on a trip to the store is a given. I think it is more important to focus on your desired end state of getting the preps you want instead of thinking about and arguing principle. I have chosen this path and it has worked out pretty well for me. If some nice stuff appears in her jewelry box (or whatever else she likes) odds are the ruggedly awesome you have been wanting Mosin Nagant will show up in the closet.
This pretty much covers my thoughts on how to deal with the smaller issues.
Ironically from what I see no issues seem to come up between a few hundred bucks and a massive and total change in lifestyle namely moving to a trailer in the middle of nowhere. All I can say about that is if both parties are really not 100% on board with it that dog isn't going to hunt.
Wifey and I have talked about this in a combination of a conceptual discussion and our own experiences with preparedness finances. Somewhere down the road she will write on the matter. I/We were lucky that my paranoia was fully developed when we entered into marriage. For better or worse all the cards were on the table before hand. I do not suggest revealing your paranoia on a first date but somewhere between that and promising to spend the rest of your natural life with someone it would be a good thing to have some serious conversations about.
For those of you who got all nuts after making lifelong vows and the spouse isn't on board with the whole thing. Aside from the basics of what I said above I do have a couple suggestions. First start gradually: a few cans of food and a couple gallons of water at the grocery store, a couple boxes of ammo for your ccw/ bedroom handgun, a bit of emergency cash in the sock drawer. Gradually increasing the size and scope of your paranoia's impact on life will give her some time to get used to it.
Also I have had pretty good luck with explaining exactly what I want to get and why I want to get it. Someone who sees a need for say clean water is a lot more likely to be OK with some cash disappearing from the bank account for a water filter.
Oh yeah, I am sorry if it seemed like I was picking at anyone or anything like that or if it came off as know it all. I am just putting what I have experienced (or observed) that works and doesn't work.
How does it work in your house? If it doesn't work then why doesn't it?