I need some advice from you and the community.
I've been having some trouble (In the same way Sisyphus had some
difficulty) trying to get my girlfriend to understand the preparedness
mentality. We may be moving in together soon and it's an issue. I can
live with her not joining in, but I can't even get her to Understand.
She's a highly educated and intelligent woman. She's an Engineer who
works with local government contracts, but she just can't see it.
I tried explaining that guns in the hands of the victims could have
turned the tide in many mass-shootings.
I tried to explain that the Katrina victims who starved could have
laid in supplies to get through.
And I then had to try to explain how I'm not "Blaming the victims"
when I talk about real-world situations that could have been averted.
She talked about people vainly waiting for the government to help them
in a crisis like somehow that would change. If I suggest that sane
people shouldn't rely on outside help, I'm suddenly an asshole for
blaming the victims. She hates the idea of me having guns in our home.
I don't know if there is anything I can say that can change her
opinions. She was horribly assaulted a few years back and Still
resists the idea that you shouldn't rely on strangers (government
employees) coming to the rescue. I'm at a loss. I'm hoping someone has
suggestions on how to present preparedness to her.
TOR here: I got this email and really wanted to respond to it as quickly as possible. I may not be able to solve anything but can at least share my thoughts on the matter and a bit of experience from preparing while in a relationship. First to the gun thing.
Does she have a basic understanding of how guns work? Sometimes people who have only heard about them from the liberal media and such have a view where guns are about equal to a dozen rusty razor blades welded together at weird angles covered in AIDS and stored on the floor in the hallway. I know many women don't like their residence looking like the Alamo or a COP with random loaded guns all over the place. Maybe keeping guns in the safe/ locking steel cabinet or physically on your person would help.
Some people particularly women have a real thing about not wanting guns around. I have an aunt whose husband kept his Glock with my Grandparents for probably 5 years. Eventually he got a gun safe and it moved to their place. All I can say is that if the is absolutely not willing to work with you and come to an agreement (guns in safe or whatever) then you have to choose. If I was in that situation I would tell a chick who was unwilling to work with me on that to take a hike.
I would not worry so much about her accepting the 'mentality'. I would worry about her ACTIONS and HOW THEY AFFECT YOUR PREPARADNESS. For perspective my wife does not share a lot of my opinions on life and preparadness but we keep plenty of food around and put money towards preps and precious metals every month.
Spouses generally fall into 4 rough groups when it comes to this.
The first group is whole hog into it. Their idea of an awesome weekend is going to shoot an animal, cooking it over a fire and then sleeping in an improvised shelter with just their BOB's to comfort them. Few spouses fall into this group.
The second group is into some aspects of preparadness but not others. Maybe they hate to shoot/hunt/ whatnot but loves to cook from staples or sew or hike or camp. Wifey falls loosely into this group.
The third group wants nothing to do with preparadness at all but within certain circumstances is open to you pursueing it. This isn't ideal but you can work with it.
The fourth group wants nothing to do with preparadness and doesn't want you to either. This often leads to guys sneeking around and stashing preps in weird places, etc. [Just the same way as if you were sneeking around with Suzzie Rotten Crotch or Jim Gonaherpisiphilades] this will not end well. I personally consider a spouse absolutely refusing to 'let' you participate in something which is important to you a serious lack of respect and that would probably be a deal maker for me.
Again back to perspective and such. I assume there is some reason you love this gal. Maybe she has a short skirt and a long jacket or whatever. Trying to convert her in a modest way may be possible. Focusing on realistic and likely situations 'remember when the power went out last winter, wouldn't it be nice to have some food and a kerosene heater', etc is probably a reasonable course of action.
I know lots of couples who don't totally see eye to eye on everything but have plenty of stuff in common and a generally good relationship. Coming to reasonable agreements when it comes to space, finances (if you share them) and such is probably more important than 'perspective'.
Does anyone else have thoughts on this?